Suffering

I wrote about pain and now i decided to write something which is related to pain, one word came into my mind and that is ‘Suffering’. We all suffer in one way or other. Sometimes we suffer if we do good & sometimes we suffer if we have done something wrong. So much is going on in this world that I feel so sad like when I see innocent people suffering due to terrorism, genocide, racism etc etc. This is the case where people who have done no wrong are suffering. The major question is why? And nobody is going to answer this why and this is the thing that I am afraid of. Let’s just raise our voice because that’s the least we can do.

Suffering is related to pain and there’s already so much pain in this world that it’s hard to imagine what the other person is going through in his life. In the other case people suffer because of depression, anxiety. Its treatment is available but the least we can do is to spread kindness. Your behavior can bring alot of change in other person’s life. Do you imagine that before talking to someone else? Trust me it will make alot of change.

Wrong decisions, not believing in ourself sometimes lead to suffering. It’s such a vast topic that the more you think about it the more you want to write, never ending discussion. So the idea behind this post is that the people of this world are already suffering alot, why are we making it worse? why are we ruining the definition of peace, kindness and happiness? Let’s make this world better for all by little acts of kindness. You can donate to help the victims of Syria, Burma, Jordan etc. You can talk to a person suffering from depression or anxiety or is in any other pain and try to help him. Actually you can do alot, you can make a huge difference.

Start now not tomorrow.

Love.x. 

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What is inside my handbag!

Hi lovely people!

I decided to do a fun post before eid as I was tagged by some friends on Instagram  &  Twitter  to do a challenge named ” What’s inside my handbag”

I always choose small handbags over big ones as I don’t carry so much stuff with me so a small beautiful bag which is easy to carry always works. Want to see what’s inside it? Here it is:

Wallet

I put all the necessary cards, keys( if any), money, pins and little things in it.

Diary or a small notebook

This is always there like I love diaries.

Body Spray

Blushon/ face powder

Not always but sometimes I carry these with me as well.

Mascara/ Eye liner

It’s necessary as you all know. lol

Lip balm

I like my maybelline baby lips so this is one thing I like to carry with me wherever I go.

Sunglasses

Who doesn’t like to wear them like who.

• Last but not the least my mobile.

Sometimes I add more things like Sunscreen, lotion etc 

It depends on the situation. Hope you enjoyed this post. 

I would love to know what’s inside your handbag.

Also Eid Mubarak to you all💕we will celebrate Eid tomorrow here in Pakistan. I pray that you enjoy every single moment of these blessed days. Remember me in your prayers! 

Love.x.

PAIN, not just a strong word.

Pain is not just a strong word. You can’t define pain in just a statement because it is different experience for every person. Pain can teach you to be hopeful and it can teach you to break all the rules. It can lead towards depression and insomnia. Pain, which allows you to forget everything else and you get close to Allah. Pain teaches you lessons but most importantly pain demands to be felt. Either you get what you want or you end up losing something in the end. It can be dangerous and it can be helpful but it depends on you, yes you that how do you see it. Do you want to stay in pain or do you want to get out of it, are you struggling in your life or you just sit and watch everything falls apart. You need to fix yourself first to get rid of PAIN. Yes it’s true that there are times when we must be hurt in order to grow, we must lose in order to gain, because some lessons in life are best learned through pain. But one has to get rid of pain because everybody wants to live a beautiful life.
It is a complicated phenomenon because pain according to you would be something else while according to me it would be something else. But one thing that is similar is it teaches us a lesson, it teaches us how to struggle, it makes us strong, it makes you look at the positive side of the life, which is a good thing but at the same time no one can ever forget the time period in which one has to go through so much pain. Pain according to me is a contcontradiction. You want to get rid of it but you feel trapped. It can be opposite as some people feel pleasure in it in various forms. You can’t share how you feel because it’s indescribable, at least for me. Like the world has came to an end or if not world then at least your life, the thought that you are going to die of pain gives you goosebumps and suddenly you feel helpless, breathless. We always compare pain to death and it’s hard to actually imagine it. It’s not just physical but mental illness results to a worst image because you can’t actually explain what you are going through whether it’s in the form of depression or just feeling of stress. Getting out of that pain is really really important according to me. There are medicines to get rid of physical pain but for mental pain it’s different. It kills you from inside. Yes I am saying it and it’s true that mental pain needs to be focused more as I see everyday in newspapers and social media that people are actually dying because of mental illness. We can do so many things to save people who are suffering from it. Why everybody is just ignoring this fact, why everyone is keeping their mouth shut, just because it’s not you? No this issue needs to get resolved as soon as possible. 

We together can actually do alot to save these people suffering from pain. 

Just spread kindness because this world already is full of hate. Just by talking to that kind of people will help them alot. As a psychology student, so far I learnt that you just have to listen to the person suffering from illness. Don’t give advices or things like that because the person sitting next to you might just wanted to talk to you without the fear of judgement you know. Spread kindness because it will not cost you anything but it will be helpful for people around you. Positive attitude is really important specially in a negative environment. 

I read this on internet and I feel like what pain actually is has been described very truly. I thought I should share it with you guys as well. Here it is

      

With the pain in your chest, you can’t stand anymore,

So tired you just want to fall to the floor,

Exhausted from smiling every single day,

No matter what the pain won’t go away.

Feel so hopeless, you just want to cry,

When no one can help you or even say why

The darkness took over the life you once had,

It left you so lonely, frightened and sad…

You thought this was it, things can get no worse

You are tired of fighting the eternal curse.

But each day gets harder, harder to bear,

When you think of future, you really don’t care.

Each day you wake up hoping it’s your last,

It’s raining today, dark and overcast…

The monster inside is the worst thing that’s happened,

More painful than anything ever imagined.

Still I live with the hope things will one day get better,

That this pain inside will not last forever.

–  Anonymous.

Hope never dies even in critical situations one has to be hopeful in order to survive. People suffering from pain are always hopeful that maybe in next minute their pain will go away. When there is no hope left or the person feels hopeless then they start thinking about death which is so hard actually.

I will write more posts on mental health in coming days as this is my field but for now we have to accept the fact that no matter what kind of pain it is, people suffer alot. We have to accept the fact that we actually focus more on physical health and neglect mental health. But now we have to stay united and write about this matter and raise our voices because this is all what we can do. 

Hope this article is helpful for you all and I can’t wait to read more posts on this issue. If you have written something do share the link in the comments section below.

Spread happiness, kindness and love.x.

Note: The featured image is by talented artist Mahoor Jamal. Her work is incredible. You can check more of her work on Instagram @mahoor_jamal 👇

https://www.instagram.com/mahoor_jamal/

I am back after not-so-long Eid break!

Hi Everyone! 
I hope you all are doing great. I didn’t post after Eid(makes a sad face) because I went to my hometown to spend Eid holidays and to celebrate Eid with my relatives. I truly enjoyed these 15 days and took some time off from social media. But yeah I am back guys and I can’t wait to share all the pictures with you all. So my hometown is Murree and it’s a Northern area near Islamabad. Weather there was so so good like 20°C-21°C. I don’t like Summer season, my favorite season is winter. So the days spent there were amazing. I am a nature loving person and I love hilly areas, greenery and all things natural. Yes I prefer village life over city life actually. The fact that you are breathing in a peaceful and fresh environment is so good. You get to Know so much about your surroundings and different kind of people. I have experienced so many new things there and I enjoyed every bit of it. I did horse riding for the first time in my whole life(Yassss guys) and I can’t explain how amazing it was. So many memories I made and I can’t wait to go there again. It’s a great place to beat the summer heat and just chill in a not-so-cold weather. Oh yes I enjoyed cable-car and chair-lift ride aswell. I had such an amazing time with my cousins. We spent a whole day on the beautiful hill  like we had a ride on chair lift and then cable car to go to the top of the hill and did horse riding there. Below are some of the pictures of the view and hills(I love taking pictures of sky like I am obsessed with it).

Breathtaking view from the top of the hill
As i told you guys i love taking pictures of sky.
This is how a chairlift looks like incase you don’t know what I am talking about!
And this is a cable car. Sorry for bad picture quality as it was impossible to take a descent picture while sitting in it.
And this was so much fun but right now look at how beautiful the horse is!
View from Chair lift.
Can you spot the moon?🌚

Oh let me mention that All these pictures are without any photo effect(It’s true).

I hope you have enjoyed. I wanted to share pictures of food as well but there are so many of them that still I am unable to decide which to post and which not to. As you all know pictures of food are always pretty. Hahaha

It’s not like I don’t go to my hometown every year. No we spend all the important occasions and summer season there because weather here get so hot that it’s unbearable. I just thought of sharing where were I during this Eid break(too long in my case) because i’ve got so many messages that where am I as I didn’t post anything on social media for like 15 days I guess. But oh I have so many ideas in my head that I will be sharing with you guys in form of different posts. 

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Thank you for following my blog, you all are awesome.x. So overwhelmed with the response that I am getting Alhamdulillah💙

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I would love to know how you guys spent your Eid holidays and summer vacations as well?🌟

3 Simple Ways To Get Organized In Life!

Getting organized in life is what I am struggling about these days. It’s pretty hard for a messy and lazy person like me. But because of Ramadan no matter what, you have to do all the things on time so this is one of many things I like about this beautiful month. I always try to do my work on time but I fail because I am always like oh I will do this tomorrow or few hours later or I forget to do that and I hate this so much. So nowadays I am trying my best to do all the important things on their time and trying to manage time. Following are steps that will help you in getting organized in an easy way.

1) Use A Planner

This is a very important step and will help you alot. Writing things down in a notebook and planning things is always a great option. Plan things and write everything which is on your list-to-do everyday. I made my own planner like it’s so rough and I am also planning to buy one. I have downloaded one on my phone which was included in Muslimah Bloggers giveaway by Muslim Mommy USA and I can’t wait to get a print of it.

2) Stick to your Plan

Whatever plans you have made or the things you have wrote down, it will be of no use if you’ll not follow this step. Look you have wrote down every thing that you have to do everyday and you have planned everything, now if you’ll not follow it obviously you will not be able to do things on time. This will make you frustrated because you are not able to complete your work on time. So by sticking to your plan and by doing everything on its proper time, you will be able to save time and this will make you happy. This is the step that I missed mostly and results were terrible. I always made time tables, used a notebook but guess what It didn’t work. Why? Because I wasn’t​ sticking to my plan, I was replacing things that okay I will do this tomorrow so let’s do another thing (procrastination at its peek).

3) Relax and Simplify things

This is as important as doing all the tasks on the right time. You will feel some difficulty in doing this because you know a person who procrastinates alot like me can never easily make plans and then stick to it. No like honestly I am still struggling with this and I am trying again this time, hopefully everything will get easy and life will be less frustrated. To be honest you will feel low sometimes but all you need to do is to relax and just take some good rest. Another important thing to relieve stress is to make things simple. This will obviously require a positive mindset. Do things as simply as you can because complicated methods take alot of time and you will feel so tired. Obviously things will become complicated for you if you’ll not finish your work on time so, to avoid that you have to work everything as you have planned. Put yourself in a position where you can focus on doing the right task for the moment. Just relax and do something good for yourself because this is very important if you really want to get organized in life.

What are the steps you are following to help being organized in life? Would love to know that.

Much love.x.

LIVE EVERY MOMENT!

I read this somewhere that psychology says, “It’s healthier to be sad sometimes than happy all the time.”

Life is so unpredictable. We can’t predict what’s gonna happen next because sometimes we expect something and we get an absolutely opposite result. We always feel like why can’t life be just good. Why we feel depressed and lazy on some days and feel good and energetic on some. And we end up thinking that maybe there is a fault somewhere that needs to be fixed. 

You know what there always can’t be happy days, energetic you, great things, positivity all around. There will be some days filled with dull moments, laziness, negativity and it’s completely okay and normal. This world is made up of pairs. Like there is morning and evening, sunshine and rain, happy and sad etc etc

You will find pairs in everything not just physical things but also our emotions, feelings as well. If you are feeling good today it’s not necessary that you will be feeling good tomorrow as well but yes you can struggle to do that. Maybe you will feel lazy for just few seconds and then you will be okay after that.

Personally there are days when I don’t want to do anything and just want to sleep and eat you know and I know you all feel like that too. I try to be as much positive as I can but sometimes I fail but this doesn’t mean that I should start saying that ‘Oh I hate my life’. This is not the thing we should be extremely worried about or start blaming ourselves because it’s pretty normal. No matter how hard you try not all 365 days are going to be the same. Do not blame yourself. Just try to embrace and live every moment. Feel positive towards everything because you are precious. Try to learn new things and try to learn to live bad moments as well because it’s a part of our lives.

All I am trying to say is that if you are not feeling good and something bad happens, do not complain because as we all know everything happens for a reason. We should just pray that every day we will be able to do something extraordinary, something that’ll​ make us happy. 

The more you try to control something, the more it controls you. Free yourself and let things take their own natural course. You can’t control everything. Sometimes you just need to relax and have faith that things will work out. Let go and let life happen.

Ramadan Decorations!

​Hello Everyone!

I was so busy due to finals and finally I am done with all the hectic work and pathetic routine. I didn’t post because of it and now I will be more active here. 

As Ramadan has already started and I didn’t wish you guys or wrote a post about it so guys Ramadan Mubarak to all of you!

Ramadan is my favorite month and I just wait every year for it to come.

We all start preparing for it before 1 or 2 months and we decorate our homes, buy all the necessary items and do all the shopping and important stuff so that we will have more time to pray in Ramadan.

This Ramadan I also decorated my room but because my finals were going on so I didn’t do much and I am kinda sad about it. Anyways so I thought I should share with you all how I decorated my room. 

I just made these by myself as you can see in the picture below

It’s pretty easy because I used items that were easily available. I used hard charts, formic sheet, one shiny covering sheet and that’s it.

I cut hard chart in triangle shapes as you can see and then I covered those triangles with shiny covering sheet (you can use any) with the help of glue. Then I cut formic sheet into circle shape and pasted them on it and wrote one by one alphahets on it with the help of Marker. 

And then I took a thread and put all the triangles in it and pasted it on the wall.

Isn’t it easy? You can use fairy lights as well because they give a beautiful and dreamy look to the room. I am planning to make handmade lamps because they too look so good. My friend sent me this picture and I don’t know actually how to make them. If any one of you know then please tell me. Otherwise I have to watch some YouTube videos!

If you have made something like this, don’t forget to tag me in your post.

My insta username is @_eatreadlive 
I would love to know how you decorated your room for Ramadan❤

Every Day Is A Mother’s Day!

So today is a special day as the whole world is celebrating Mother’s day. I started blogging few days back and I wanted to write something for my mother and I thought today is a great day to write something about the most special person in my life-My mother!💞

Actually I feel like every day should be celebrated as Mother’s day because she deserves more. I am not against wishing her on social media or posting a selfie or something but I think it’s more important to tell her everyday that ‘I love you’. Trust me it will make her feel better. I wanted to write something about my mother but we all know words are never enough to describe what she means to us. I want to write so much and still I can’t find the right words. So please bear with me. Here I go!

“All that I am and I will be, I owe to my mother” -George Washington

My mother is a huge part of my life. When I count the hours that we spend together, traveling, shopping and doing all things together, I realized she is the best thing in the whole wide world.

For me, my mother is my inspiration. I can’t describe my love for her, she’s a role model for me. She is the reason behind every good thing I do. Everyday I just want to do something extraordinary just because of her. Her journey is remarkable and quite inspirational for me. 

She always says ‘Yousra you should write a book on my life, trust me it will be a hit’ and I always laugh because her journey so far is quite remarkable and tough at the same time. I have never seen such a hard working person in my entire life. She is kind towards other people. I am not saying this because she is my mother but because this is all true. Despite so many difficulties she never said that ‘Oh I hate my life.’ This is what motivates me alot. Don’t give up no matter what. She says that ‘Do whatever you think is better for yourself but do well’. Also today is my birthday and I have turned 20 years old but still I don’t usually buy my own dresses, in short she is my stylist. Whatever idea she  come up with that this dress should be sewed like this and all the style stuns me. 

Our choices are so similar, from outfits to jewellery and sandals, she always makes​ sure that everything for us is on point. I just love her and I want to do something extraordinary for her. Nobody in this whole wide world is like your parents, no one can beat their love. My mother went to perform Umrah few days back and you can’t imagine how much I missed her. Everything was incomplete, when I used to come back from uni and after realizing that she is not present at home, I felt so tired at that time. Nobody can replace her. Ami you are the BEST.

My mother gave me life and never once asked for anything in return. That is her secret you know; always giving without expectations. She is as constant as the sunrise, the moon, the stars and I count on her. She helps me find my way through the years and makes me laugh while doing it. There are somethings that only a mother can do.

For all the times I didn’t thank you, either because I was too young, too busy, or just didn’t find the words. Today I want to thank you for all you’ve done for me. Now I realize more and more everything you did, everything you gave and most importantly​ everything you stand for and I love you and I thank you with all my heart. You deserve the best and I will make sure that you will get the best❤

Words can’t describe how much I love you and how much you mean to me.

EVERY DAY IS A MOTHER’S DAY✨

To the world you are a mother, to your child you are the world.

Happy mother’s day to all the beautiful Mother’s out there!

You guys are the best and nobody can beat what you do for your children no matter what💕

How you surprised your mother today?Do let me know in the comments below.

PERFECTION-A LIE!

A few days back I was discussing that what is perfection & all with one of my classmates who I believe is very strong because she lost her mother when she was 6 years old & her father went to abroad leaving her with her aunt. She still is quite positive in her life and never complains. She said something important. She said, Yousra do you know why I am like this?Why I never complain & why I am so positive towards life and the fact that there is nobody to take care of me, my parents left me & I am still happy. You Know why? Because I never wanted to be perfect. I accepted my weaknesses. I wanted to live happily,who doesn’t?So this is the reason I chose a simple life over a complex one. I do so many things wrong everyday & so much wrong has happened to me but I never complain because I trust Allah. Yes I try to be better each day but to be perfect is not my goal. I am so inspired by her.
I actually don’t Know what to write because it would take me the rest of my life to think this thing through but whatever comes in my mind I’m gonna write it down so please bear with me!

A thought came in my mind that why can’t everybody be like her you know? Because she’s been through so much & still she is happy & the reason of her happiness is that her goal is not PERFECTION.

Why we all keep running towards material things to make our lives perfect but there is no peace in our lives & we forget easily that this world is artificial. Life is not perfect. It never has been and it never will be. It means we can stop pursuing the mystical, perfect life. It means we can stop chasing the perfect skin, Perfect job, perfect house & all. It means we can find freedom to live within our imperfections. In fact the sooner we realize that nothing is perfect in this artificial world, the sooner we can begin living better lives. We can finally stop chasing happiness in perfection you Know. Because we all know that Perfection is never doing something wrong & nobody is like that. Do you know someone like a single person who haven’t done something wrong?

So according to me, Perfect is absolutely boring!

Flaws and failures are a part of human condition. And even if you look at the person next to you & believe with all your heart that they ‘have it all’, You are wrong.

Every person in this world has mental, physical or emotional imperfections. When we feel bad about who we are, we are unable to perform successfully in the world around us. Yes we all want to achieve our dreams & goals but let me tell you something. Perfection & success are two completely different terms,

so never get confused that Oh I cannot be perfect so I can’t be successful. No it’s not like that. Personally for me, perfection is absolutely not what I want. Happiness & Positivity is something that is important.

Learn to be happy not perfectly because happiness lies in little things. And sometimes in search of perfection we ignore so many beautiful & important things,we forget who we are.

You are not perfect but you are enough,you are powerful,you can do so many things. Live a simple life. Stop criticizing & judging yourself but obviously try to be a better person each day. What if you can’t do that? Maybe you are good at something else. It’s easy to say that oh that girl is so perfect,how she do that? But you never know what’s going on in her life. So try not to be perfect because perfection doesn’t exist. Allah is perfect & nature is perfect but human beings make mistakes & they are not perfect.

Shine for progress not perfection!

I fall, I rise

I make mistakes

I live, I learn

I’ve been hurt but I’m alive

I’m human & I’m not perfect

But I am thankful……

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You may or may not agree with me but I want to know what are your thoughts on Perfection, please comment below 💕

The Time Is Now!

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I made this account like 9 months ago and now I properly started writing posts because at that time I was like no it’s not the right time to do this, how I will be able to manage time and things like that. But you know what I just realized that I was totally wrong because there is never a right time to do anything, we have to make the time right and do things accordingly.

Why we don’t do things that we want to do?And we always end up doing nothing.

Doing something is better than doing nothing and this is something we all should understand.

” The right time is always now” -Casey Neistat.

Actually it is terrible thing in life, to wait until you are ready. You have to be ready to do all the things you want to do right now. I guess we all do this often because sometimes we are not in a mood to do that thing but we wait for the right time and that never happens because you have to make right time by yourself. Time never waits for anyone so why not do it now. We all should live in the present moment,you know this is the moment you are alive, happy & you can do whatever you want to do. Do not think about past or that what will happen in future, just enjoy this present moment!

I always wanted to come out of my comfort zone and wanted to do something interesting so I just decided that no matter what I am going to do this now and finally I started this journey and I am happy but the fear of judgment is still there. Haha

When you plan to do something and finally you are done with it, trust me the amount of  happiness you get after that  is undescribable.(I know you guys can totally relate to this)

So Don’t wait for things to get easier, simpler and better. Life will always be complicated. Learn to be happy right now, otherwise you will run out of time.

Think Positive Always!🌟